Patterns are made to be broken

Being in a relationship, whether that is personal or business, do not forget that you can not go into it thinking you can change someone. We as humans are free to choose. We have all been in positions where we have tried to control a situation or person. How has that worked out for you? God has designed us and given us choices. We can choose to follow him, choice A, or we can not, choice B. (Galatians 5:1) The choice to come to him is more meaningful this way. I am willing to bet, you either have a boyfriend/girlfriend, child/children, husband/wife or business partner you are thinking about right now. You have probably asked them a question in which the words, “You need … ” were said. When you pose a question to someone, they can freely decided if that is a priority to them. Let me guess, they did not do what you wanted. Why? Because it was something that that person felt they did not have to do. Frustrated? I am here to tell you how I have changed my “Patterns” and broke them to stay on the path God has called me to.

Let me pose few examples to you.

  1. You tell your husband/wife, child/children, boyfriend/girlfriend that they NEED to clean up their “insert item here”.
  2. You tell your child/children, you NEED to do their homework and chores.
  3. You tell your business partner that they NEED to get those reports done.

Notice the word need. That is what is wrong. You can not control them. God created us to be freedom agents! From this point on, I am outlawing the words “You Need … ” Try this instead, “If you want to go do ______ , ________has to get done. If it is disagreeable to you to go to ___________, then _____________ is going to happen.

Let me give you a scenario my pastor gave in church.

  • There was a family, and the father had bought tickets to go to see the Bears play. The game was on Saturday, and today was Friday. He instructed his children that if they wanted to go to the Bears game, their homework and chores need to be done. If it is disagreeable for anyone of you to go, then Alice the babysitter will be here to look after you. I have already called her, and she is available.

In that example he gave, no where in that paragraph did the words, “you need” come out. However, you need to be prepared if they do not do what you are asking. If one of the fathers children did not get those things done, then he would have to follow through on getting the babysitter there on Sunday, and not let that child go to the game. When we phrase things like in the example above, it give that other person the ability to make their own choices. In that child’s mind, the light bulb turns on and suddenly, they feel the need to get _________ done. This goes for your relationships as well.

Do not ever forget to do your due diligence. What do I mean? Here is one other example:

  • There was a man, and he really wanted to fill a position in his company. It was down to the wire! He got a resume of an individual that seemed to be what he had asked for. So, without a second thought, he hired him! A month later, that person was not cutting it. Now, he needs to go back to the drawing board again.

In your life, figure out what it is going to take. With this example, I thought of a relationship. Sometimes, when we are focused on getting a boyfriend/girlfriend or getting married, our vision gets cloudy. We want a relationship so bad, that we do not do out due diligence. If you have children, as a parent, never neglect to do your due diligence. I call this the ready … aim … FIRE approach.

Lastly, ask yourself these questions:

  1. What area of life, do you have pain in and you want to stop?
  2. What area are you not getting what you want?
  3. Are some of my pain, in the patterns I continue to do, causing a loved one pain?

Choose to be an open system. When you close yourself off to others or God, you are going to run out of energy. When you open yourself up, and allow God in you create energy and new intelligence. Surround yourself with God centered people. Do not let the old wiring you have, the old patterns you have, dictate tomorrow. You are loved!

-The Organic Christian

Under the Influence of Good Music and Fellowship

Good afternoon everyone,

It has been some time since my last blog post and I am very sorry about that. Life has gotten busy! We run around meeting people, doing errand’s, driving our children to activities, picking up groceries and much more. With that being said, we seem to be spending more time in our cars then actually at home. For a moment, I would like you to think about your experience when you are in your car. What comes to mind? I bet you first thought about traffic! What about the drive-through? Do you have music in the background? My point here is, they probably are not positive things.

This morning I had the pleasure of meeting my friend Katherine for coffee. We fellowshipped as we sipped on coffee and ate some delicious blueberry muffins! “These can’t be good for you … they are way too GOOD” Katherine said after just one bite! I have to agree with that statement! As we talked the subject of influence we felt by our culture came up. The situation I asked you to think about regarding your experience in the car, was to ask you this: What type of music are you listening to when you are rushing about? For some it could be rock, hip hop, classical. How many said Christian music? I know I didn’t.

Now, few people are like my friend Katherine. She listens to really nothing but Christian music. I thought about the affect music can bring on our mood. Typically, when I am in the car, I listen to the Mix (101.1). It’s not bad, but it could be better. This morning I listened to K-Love, a Christian station preprogramed in my car. I noticed my mood change as I was driving. With listening to the positive messages my mood was uplifted. Even while you are driving, leaving positive music, more specifically Christian music on, your mood will change. 

I will admit, I swear when I drive. That is wrong! I get worked up over the little things. Example, people who do not understand what a signal is for. This upsets me which leads to swearing. I know they can’t hear me, so why should it matter? It is the way we conduct ourselves. The way we act in a church should not just be thrown out the window when we are not. The way we conduct ourselves should be universal.

Because I think change is needed I am issuing a challenge:

  1. Nothing but a Christian music for a week! This means at home, in the car, at the gym … everywhere!
  2. No swearing! If you wouldn’t say it at Church … don’t say it at all!

To start the challenge off right, I have pre-programed by Pandora to only Christian stations. I have deleted all other stations so there is no temptation. I have also deleted all other music I have added to my personal library on my phone. Don’t freak out people, it can be put back on later!!!! Lastly, I have told my friends and family what I plan to do so they can hold me accountable. Let’s go people!!! I hope you a blessed day. Remember, you are loved.

The Organic Christian  

Why?

This has to be, the most asked question on the face of this planet. We often walk around with this, chip, on our shoulder. This “why” question is something we lug around with us. Why did this happen to me? Why would God allow this to happen? I have a question for you, could all this be your fault? Before you go and get mad, hear me out. When you ask the question “why”, I would like you to go through some questions of your own to figure out where to place the blame. These question were posed first by Senior Pastor Bill Hybil, and they are as follows:

1. Did I cause this pain?

2. Is this pain a result of another humans carelessness?

– My parents made the decision to get a divorce, I had to live with the results of that choice.

3. Are these acts of God (natural disasters)?

4. Did this come straight from evil himself?

The question I ask all the time is, God, why do you allow such horrible things to happen in this world? Aside from the presence of an evil being, I can not figure out how an adult can harm a child. Who tells you, “tell that lie”?  Who put the idea into Hitlers head to gas millions of people? BLUE PRINTS WERE DRAWN UP!!!!! There were people sitting around who build those machines for the sole purpose of killing other people. And a lot of people ask, “Why would God allow this?” God made us to have free will. God could have made us like robots, serving him. How meaningful would that be? By us coming to him, by our own will, means so much more.

There are four truths that I believe you can hold onto when things get hard.

1. God is never the author or evil.

-John 1:5 ( The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness can never extinguish it.)

2. God will always limit the amount of evil that will come your way.

-God knows better then anyone else, the limits you have. When you find yourself thinking that you just cannot take it anymore remember something, that is you and I saying this … You need to trust in God and know that he will limit the evil that comes your way.

3. Gods presence is never more real than in the eye of the storm. 

-Psalm 34:18 (The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.)

4. God will eventually weave the pain into a blessing.

-Romans 8:28 ( And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.)

I asked a lot of questions to God. I bet you have too. Remember, in the moments where you feel like you could not handle anymore, God is there and he will help you. It is by free will he has made you, and by this token, how he has made others. Do not be frustrated by the choices of others. Simply know that God is with you and will turn this pain into a blessing.

-The Organic Christian